I am always so shocked at how judgmental human beings can be. I think what perplexes me the most is when a human being pretends like they're not human. Like they're perfect and have this life thing all figured out. When a human being judges another human for being...well...human. When he who is with sin casts stones while they're living in a glass house.
“We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others.”
I think that we are so quick to judge others because we fear being judged ourselves. Perhaps if we magnify another person's flaws and faults, then we shift focus from our own mistakes. We judge and condemn others when they make a mistake, but want others to understand and sympathise with us when we make a mistake. We judge ourselves by our intentions and judge others by their actions.
I have found that we always seem to have answers for everyone else but ourselves. We always seem to know what everyone else should be doing, how they should be living, what choices they should be making, when our own lives are a mess. As a matter of fact, we always expect others to be perfect, even though we are anything but.
We all agree that you cannot live your life trying to make other people happy, yet, for some reason, when people do live their lives not trying to make us happy, we judge them. Sometimes we even condemn them. We assume that if we were in their shoes we would choose differently. And based on this assumption, we judge them. We condemn them. We torture them.
The truth is, you don't know what you'd do if you were in someone else's shoes. And you'll never know because you will NEVER be anyone else but yourself.
“I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually, circumstances cause people to act a certain way. It's from those circumstances that a person's attitude is affected followed by weakening of character. Not the reverse. If we had no faults of our own, we should not take so much pleasure in noticing those in others and judging their lives as either black or white, good or bad. We all live our lives in shades of gray.”
When you know better, you do better. And I believe that we are all just doing our best. We are all on this life journey just trying to be happy. And we do whatever we feel we need to do in order to be happy.
And sometimes, we make mistakes. Actually, a lot of times we make mistakes. And other people make mistakes too. And by judging someone, you're depriving them of their human right to make mistakes. You're punishing them for being human.
I've taught myself that, as long as some one is not hurting anyone, as long as their choices make them happy, let them be. I am not the moral compass of life. I am not without sin. I am far from perfect; therefore, I have no right to expect anyone else to be perfect. I have no right to judge anyone just because they sin differently from me.
Keep your business to yourself and yourself out of other people's business.
Life is short. You do not have the luxury of time or energy to focus on what you THINK are other people's mistakes. Instead of trying to fix everyone, it is probably more profitable to use your time and energy to fix your life. You'll be so much better for it. You'll be happier for it. And if you really are concerned about them, then try to help them. Just don't judge, because when you judge someone, it becomes really difficult to love them or even to help them.
A very dear friend of mine once said, "Don't involve yourself where you do not add value." When you judge someone, you add no value. You add no value to their lives or to yours. Let people live in their own way and make their own mistakes, and you live your own life in your own way and make your own mistakes.
“When you judge others you reveal your inability to see them through God's eyes.”
The sin of judging is just as bad as any other sin you judge someone else for committing. Just try to love everyone.
I think a lot. I question a lot. This is my journey to finding the answers and also sharing with you my thoughts on life as i see it...
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